toxic shame

(term previously coined by Dr. Silvan Tomkins) feelings of shame that lead someone to conclude they are bad, less than, unworthy, undeserving or unlovable. These feeling may be deep set, long-lasting and negatively affect someone’s core beliefs, automatic thoughts and overall identity. Importance Toxic shame, in a sense, is us being a bully to ourselves.Continue reading “toxic shame”

Comparative Guilt

feeling(s) of guilt for not being content because another person (known or unknown) may: love to be in your situation; or are in a worse situation than you. Examples of comparative guilt in a sentence: Parents sometimes use comparative guilt and say, “there are starving children in Africa,” to force their children to eat vegetables. Mary’s thoughtsContinue reading “Comparative Guilt”