Comparative Thinking: Why It’s Important and How it Can Hurt You

For most of us, cognitive thinking has likely become inherent. However, we need to be aware of what it is and how it can harm us. In this article I discuss what comparative thinking is, why it’s helpful, and how we can use it to our advantage. You do it every day, but do youContinue reading “Comparative Thinking: Why It’s Important and How it Can Hurt You”

You Need to Reevaluate How You Think About Control. Here’s Why.

Control is a very complex and important topic that impacts every area of our lives including: friendships, love relationships, career, mental health and family. However, it’s not really discussed openly or often. This article defines psychological and emotional control, why it’s important and how we may experience it in our lives. Understanding Control Control isContinue reading “You Need to Reevaluate How You Think About Control. Here’s Why.”

Holidays Without Family Are Tough. Here’s How to Not Let It Get You Down…and Build Your EQ in the Process

Thanksgiving is next week and this year is unlike any other. Many of us have made the difficult decision not to spend the holiday with our family. As someone who has previously spent Thanksgiving without family I can relate to how tough this may be. In this article I show you how to use emotionalContinue reading “Holidays Without Family Are Tough. Here’s How to Not Let It Get You Down…and Build Your EQ in the Process”

19 Ways to Effectively Handle Uncertainty So You Can Stop Worrying and Start Living: Pandemic Edition

Thoughts are the most powerful thing we possess. When we change them, we have the ability to change our entire lives.

Allow Your Thoughts to Float Like Leaves — How to Practice Mindfulness & Meditation

Mindfulness has become somewhat of a buzzword. However, it’s a very real and very serious concept with amazing benefits. In this article I give a high level overview of mindfulness, what it is, who it’s for and why it’s important. I also share a proven technique that will help you learn and incorporate mindfulness intoContinue reading “Allow Your Thoughts to Float Like Leaves — How to Practice Mindfulness & Meditation”

abusive distorted reality

Abusers see life by a different code – an abusive distorted reality. With this abusive distorted reality abusers feel entitled to a certain life. When they do not receive their perceived entitlement they resort to abuse in order to gain what they feel they deserve.

productive shame

(new term) utilizing feelings of shame for personal growth and development. Importance Productive shame is when we acknowledge feelings of shame and then try to understand and work through the thought patterns that form them. While we feel guilt after committing a wrongful act, shame is when we feel guilty for being who we are,Continue reading “productive shame”

toxic shame

(term previously coined by Dr. Silvan Tomkins) feelings of shame that lead someone to conclude they are bad, less than, unworthy, undeserving or unlovable. These feeling may be deep set, long-lasting and negatively affect someone’s core beliefs, automatic thoughts and overall identity. Importance Toxic shame, in a sense, is us being a bully to ourselves.Continue reading “toxic shame”